5 Beautiful Ways to Involve Grandchildren in Your Vow Renewal

Because love doesn’t just grow between two people…

It grows through generations. Through Sunday lunches, sleepovers, garden games and school pick-ups. If you’re planning a vow renewal and have grandchildren in your life, it makes perfect sense to include them because they’re part of your love story too.

Whether you’ve been together for 10, 25 or 40 years, this ceremony isn’t about redoing your wedding day, it's about celebrating how far you’ve come. And for many couples, involving the grandchildren makes it even more joyful, meaningful and real.

So if you’re wondering how to include them in a way that feels right for your family, here are five lovely ideas to spark inspiration…

1. Let them do a reading (or a poem, or a joke!)

From heartfelt poems to sweet (and often funny) reflections, a reading is a beautiful way for grandchildren to feel involved. Let them choose something they love or write something themselves if they’re old enough. Younger children could read a line or two, or stand beside you while an older sibling reads for both.

Top tip: keep it light and age-appropriate. “Why we love Granny and Grandad” is always a winner.

2. Give them a role in a symbolic ritual

Whether it’s placing stones in a memory jar, tying ribbons in a handfasting, or lighting a candle together symbolic gestures are a gentle, visual way to involve children of any age. It gives them a moment of connection with you that they’ll remember forever.

Want to represent each generation? Each grandchild could light a candle, or add their own colour to a family braid.

3. Ask them to help create the ceremony

Involve them before the day! Ask for drawings, memories, or questions they’d like to ask you (“What was Granny’s wedding dress like?” or “Did you always know you’d marry him?”). I can weave these into the ceremony, making it feel beautifully personal and rooted in your family.

You’ll end up with keepsakes you’ll treasure long after the day.

4. Choose a song they love (or perform one together)

If music is a big part of your family life, why not include it? A favourite family song, a singalong, or even a simple instrumental piece can be such a heartwarming way to reflect the love that’s grown across generations.

Young children tend to love to perform so they could sing, or play a few notes on an instrument — if you can bear it!

5. Let them lead you out

One of the loveliest ways to end a vow renewal ceremony is with your grandchildren walking out beside you holding hands, maybe even throwing petals. It’s a reminder that your story doesn’t end with this celebration it carries on through them.

It’s always a gorgeous photo moment, too.

A ceremony filled with love (and little voices)

Your vow renewal isn’t a formality, it's a celebration of everything you've built together. Including your grandchildren is a way to honour the legacy of your love and create memories they’ll carry into their own futures.

If you'd like help creating a personal, relaxed and family-focused ceremony, I’d be honoured to help.

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Planning a vow renewal with your grandchildren involved? I’d love to hear your ideas — or help you come up with a few more. You can book a no-obligation call with me here.

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